“Big fine” is an insult
Jill Scott. (Black) men everywhere seem to be mesmerized by her beauty, confidence, and charisma.
I’ve heard several times from men who don’t normally go for big girls that they would gladly make an exception for Jill Scott. Though, they don’t quite say it as eloquently. “Jill Scott is the only big woman I’d fuck,” is more like it. As if they had a chance with Muva Jill to begin with.
Men make this same commentary when they see a larger woman with an “abnormally” cute face and shapely body, who they wouldn’t ordinarily find attractive. But now there’s a word for her: big fine.
“Big Fine” is a term that refers to attractive plus-sized women, gaining popularity after Drake proclaimed “I like my girls BBW (an acronym for ‘Big Beautiful Woman’)” in “Only.” You know, since Drake said it was okay to openly like big women, it’s acceptable.
Then, Jill Scott could be seen as the poster child for attractive women with plenty of curves, or Big Fines as they say. But no.
Jill Scott is not fine “for a big woman.” She is fine. Period. “Big fine” is also an insult. I’ll explain.
It’s not up there with “pretty for a dark-skinned girl” or “pretty for a black girl,” but it’s still damaging. We shouldn’t settle for “pretty for a fat girl.”
We so-called big fines don’t really notice the hidden insult within because we’re happy to finally get our time to shine in a world where thin is the standard of beauty. We are the butt of jokes no more.
I even saw a skinny woman comment on the popularity of big fines the other day. She wanted her own movement for “lil fines.” The Big Fine Twitter authority was quick to clap back with, “Y’all got one. It’s called ‘popular culture.’”
Before, it was only okay to love us behind closed doors. Guys who liked bigger women were made fun of and called “chubby chasers.”
Now, we have this cool label that makes it fashionable to carry some extra weight. Skinny bitches beware!
As if you weren’t always beautiful, big girl. What happens when this big fine trend wears off?
Sure, it’s a cool term that’s a lot easier to say than “women over 180 pounds with cute faces,” but language is oh so powerful. Pay attention to it. Furthermore, these two small words shouldn’t give us the confidence to strut our stuff in spite of society’s side eyes.
You are fine, girl. That’s what he should say when he sees you switch by with your wide hips, big boobs, and round bottom. The “big” is not necessary.
“I’ve enjoyed my shares of ‘woo-hoos’ on the street. I’ve enjoyed the company that I’ve kept, and I think I’ve learned over the years that it’s more important to be comfortable with yourself than whatever anybody else has to say,” she said. “It can be a challenge when you don’t look like anybody on the magazine cover. It can feel alienating, but every woman in my opinion has their own power.”
“I’ve seen women — where someone else would describe as a ‘stick figure’ – carry more grace and be more sexy in her simple elegance than a full figured, curvy girl,” she continued. “I’ve seen curvy girls that cower in their skin. And it’s really about accepting of one’s self. Men are drawn to confidence. People are drawn to confidence. So I believe whole-heartedly, it’s about how you carry yourself.”
What are your thoughts on the term “Big Fine?” Comment below.
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